We are a commune of inquiring, skeptical, politically centrist, capitalist, anglophile, traditionalist New England Yankee humans, humanoids, and animals with many interests beyond and above politics. Each of us has had a high-school education (or GED), but all had ADD so didn't pay attention very well, especially the dogs. Each one of us does "try my best to be just like I am," and none of us enjoys working for others, including for Maggie, from whom we receive neither a nickel nor a dime. Freedom from nags, cranks, government, do-gooders, control-freaks and idiots is all that we ask for.
This may be a valid and needed subject of discussion. But it appears to me that what we have here is first women telling women how to turn down a man. Then we have women telling women that they don't want that advice and prefer that someone advise men how they should feel/act when turned down. It sounds like a solution in search of somene who cares.
For those men who are rejected: Women are often blindsided by unexpected propositions and, therefore, if they don't think well on their feet, can sometimes say rude things. Sorry, but true. Especially for young women who may have not had a lot of experience with dating or being the focus of male attention.
Most of us in our teens and 20s have NO clue that men are interested in us. We don't realize how our kindness can be misconstrued as an invitation to something more.
In other words, women also can be idiots and clueless.